I used to have a running joke with this girl I worked with.  One day she asked me how sex after marriage was.  I told her it’s the same because it’s always going to be what you make it.  If you were having great sex before marriage, then a wedding band a marriage certificate should not change that. Then she asked me if there were ever any times when I just didn’t want to have sex.

*crickets*

My reply – “I’m always ready.”

Seriously, always.  I could have a headache, the flu, be on my deathbed… it doesn’t matter.  I’m always ready to go.

And it’s mainly because I love the shit out of my hubby, I love to have sex and the sex is incredible. But in general, I just absolutely adore men.  I love everything about them – the way they walk, talk, smell, drive…just everything.  I check them out and fantasize about them much in the same way men do about women.  Sometimes the most simple or oddest things can really get me going.  I once had an infatuation with a dude who had a tat on his neck.  He wasn’t particularly cute but the dark, scripted ink was just sexy on his pretty brown skin.

Other things that do it for me…

Good kisses

I love to kiss.  I like to think it’s because I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 18.  So up until then all I did was kiss and get rubbed down.  I can remember at the age of 14 kissing this dude and feeling instantly dizzy.  Then all of a sudden my panties were drenched.  It was like he put a hit of X on his tongue.

Cologne

It doesn’t really matter who you are or what you look like.  If your scent is that appealing to me, I will automatically think about what it’s like to have sex with you.  I am so spellbound by cologne that I have made it a point throughout my life to never buy dudes the same cologne that I have bought or smelled on someone else I have been with.

Polo

Yes, as in the clothing line.  There is nothing more salacious than seeing a dude in a nice Polo shirt. He can wear them with plaid shorts, some True Religion jeans, timbs or sneaks and I am automatically going to notice him.

Attitude

Being cocky (with good reason, of course) makes you instantly attractive.  Call it swag, charisma, your aura, whatever.  A dude who knows he is the shit just carries himself in a totally different way than the average dude.  He handles his business and will have you thinking he has everything under control, even if everything is falling apart.

Tattoos

Body art is just sensuous and beautiful to me.  It makes me want to strip you down and see what you have chosen to cover yourself with.

Intelligence

There is nothing worse than talking to a dude who has absolutely no worldly knowledge and  doesn’t now know how to express himself.  I can become infatuated with your mind just as easily as I can lust after your body. I like to learn new things, so tell me something I don’t already know.

My Effect on You

I used to make this dude’s bottom lip quiver.  Before we even became intimate.  It was just through conversations.  I made him nervous and I liked that.  Kinda like a power trip I guess.

Accents

New York or anywhere up top, Georgia, Cali, the UK…they’re all delectable to me.

I could really go on and on, but those are the main things that turn me on outside of the bedroom.  Inside of the bedroom is a totally different conversation…