Ladies, I think that it’s time to have a male to female talk.  Have a seat.

Want something to drink?  No?  Ok, well, let me get right into it.

I want to understand why a female does certain things.  Like, say for instance, dump the guy that you know is good for you for the “jerk” who only wants your bedroom face, then get surprised when the “jerk” leaves you.

Then go running back to the guy you left.

It’s a common problem I see with women almost daily.  Mr. S.O.B. floats your boat.  You like him.  You assume he likes you.  But he does things that really irritates you and makes you think that a relationship with him won’t work.  So you start dating other people (while still giving him daily rides on the rollercoaster).  You find a guy, a really nice guy, we’ll call him… Mr. Nice Guy.  You like him, and he likes you.  You spend more and more time with Mr. NG (while start closing down your rollercoaster ride for Mr. S.O.B.) until that date where Mr. NG wants to take it a step further.

Now, all of a sudden, you have to think about it.

So, you go and see if Mr. S.O.B. still floats your boat and rings your bell.  He does.  You go back and tell Mr. NG that while you’re flattered that he would think about settling down with you, you don’t feel it’s right because you still have feelings for Mr. S.O.B.

Fast forward 2 months.

Now, Mr. S.O.B. is truly being an S.O.B.  He tires of you too quickly, and finally dumps you.  You, after careful consideration and alone time, decide to be with Mr. NG.  you go to him and tell him that you made a terrible mistake and that you would like to try a relationship with him.

Stop the tape.

Let me be REAL honest, because that is what you want correct?  (Nod your head)  You don’t want Mr. NG.

Not now, not ever.

Reason?  Mr. NG is your second choice.  Not only that, he KNOWS that he’s your second choice.  Any guy that will accept being second is one you do NOT want to be with.  Also, you’re going to be really salty at the fact that you had to “settle”, even though you know you’re with the better man.  That man will pickup on the resentment you have towards him because he knows that he wasn’t your first choice.  Subconsciously, you’re treating him a lot different than what you would have if you had not known what Mr. S.O.B. was all about in the first place.

Women don’t like being at the bottom of the scrotum pole, so why do it to men?  The kind of women that I date say they had better come first, otherwise, it’s going to be some problems.  I’m not going to date a woman knowing good and full well there’s someone out there that I’ll leave her for in a heartbeat.  But women will.

And the men accept it.

I’ve said this before, and I will always say this:  I will not settle for second place.  I am first chair, I am the President, I am the top seed, I am number 1, 2, 3, 4, AND 5.  No one (that you would date) will come before me.

Those that settle for second place are just the first losers.  I don’t settle.  And I don’t want a woman “settling” for me.

So ladies, why do you do it?  Don’t worry, I’ll wait.

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